“Great things never came from comfort zones.” – A quote many of us have probably come across at some point in our lives. A quote that I do not agree with. At least, not always.
[This might be a slightly rambly post, but one that I hope could help some of you facing similar situations.]
I first came across this quote when one of my previous employers had it plastered all over the office, and at first I thought wow yes, that is so true! However, as more time went by and I came across the quote a few more times I thought that actually, no, great things can and do come from comfort zones. In fact, I believe that sometimes you need to find your comfort zone in order to do great things!
I’m going to start by saying that I do think that it’s great to challenge yourself in life and push yourself to do the things you never thought you would, to overcome tough situations. In fact, I’ve previously spoken about doing this myself in a post on how I have been working on overcoming my fear of flying due to being in a long distance relationship. However, I don’t believe that constantly living life outside your comfort zone is the only way of doing ‘great things’.
Sometimes, life is all about finding your comfort zone and excelling in that.
We find ourselves under so much pressure to ‘think outside the box’, ‘challenge ourselves’ and ‘break boundaries’. This makes it easy to forget just how important it is for us to take a step back and re-assess whether we are truly happy with what we are doing and what we keep pushing ourselves towards.
I spent the majority of last year feeling ‘stuck’ in a situation that I really wasn’t happy with. Yet every morning I would try to push myself, to overcome the (escalating) anxiety that I was facing in doing something I did not enjoy every single weekday. Family and friends were really supportive too, and I couldn’t thank them enough. However, it came to a point where I realised that there was no point in pushing myself further as ultimately, no matter how much I succeeded in this, it was never going to make me happy. And that’s ok.
No matter how much we push ourselves, not everyone is going to succeed in happily working a routine 9-5 job in an office. Some people will instead thrive in a more flexible job, by working freelance, or by working in a job that’s predominantly outdoors. Not everyone is going to feel great and triumph when living and working overseas or travelling the world, no matter how exciting the challenge might have seemed beforehand. Some people will achieve more success working closer to home with family and friends by their side. And that’s ok too – every person is different.
Sometimes, it’s important to take a step back and find your comfort zone. Find something that you will make you feel comfortable, happy, and one that you will be able to excel in – without an unnecessarily high dose of anxiety.
If you are unhappy about a situation and you can do something about it, you don’t necessarily need to be so hard on yourself and keep pushing. Look for alternatives that will make you happy.
Yes, there will always be times when we must push ourselves. It’s a part of life. Always dreamt of travelling solo, learning how to drive or auditioning for The X Factor? Go for it! However, it’s important to also recognise the times when we need to stop pushing, to listen to ourselves and to discover what brings us real joy.
I’d love to share my personal experience on this and more about finding my own comfort zone. Let me know if you’d be interested in this!
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